Recently, a couple of my friends have mentioned to me that they love certain people in their lives. I asked them then if they would be willing to die for those people and they said no. I thought to myself for a few moments and proceeded to ask: “Is that even possible?” They were sure that it was, but I think that the Bible is very clear about this.
Sometimes when I hear a good song on the radio or on my computer, I exclaim that I “love” it. However, I usually end up taking it back vocally as I test my love by asking myself if I would die for whatever song I just heard. The answer is always no. Would I die for one of my favorite songs “Twist and Shout” by The Beatles? No, of course not. This may sound like a ridiculous comparison to a love for God or for people, but I think that it is valid point to consider as the word is constantly being overused to communicate that we enjoy something like a song. The use of “love” in this way is to downplay the actual meaning of love, which leads to a misunderstanding of what love really entails and I think that it helps to explain why my friends think that they can love someone or something without having the willingness to lay down their lives for them.
The greatest command given to believers is love God and the second greatest command is love people (Matthew 22:36-39). Now, what does this really mean, to love God and love people? Does it simply mean that we offer to pay for a friend’s drink at a coffee shop, or that we talk to a person when no one else does? These actions could possibly be signs of love, but I do not think that they are enough to demonstrate the love that is clearly defined by Christ in the cross. The apostle John writes to the Church across Asia Minor in 1 John. He clearly presents in this short book right Christian living and how his readers are to love their brothers and sisters in Christ. He writes, “By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him? Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth” (1 John 2:16-18, ESV). These verses reveal that it is not enough to love in word, but that we must love in our actions of laying down our lives for our brothers and sisters. It is not enough to just say that we love someone. It is a lie if we are not willing to unselfishly give up our lives, our own desires, or even our lifelong dreams for the sake of another’s well-being, whether that means supplying him with worldly needs or ultimately dying for him so that he might live in our place. “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13).
This must be taken one step further. It is good to recognize the full weight of love. It is also good to understand that we may not truly love the people that we are consistent in saying that we do. However, this does not mean that we just need to stop proclaiming our love when we do not truly mean it. It means that we must fulfill that love as we have been commanded to as children of God who have been saved because of love. In other words, it is not an end in itself to just understand what love means. The understanding of love must lead and will lead if it is a real comprehension into acts of love demonstrated by Christ.
It is my hope and prayer that the Church (not only the direct recipients of John’s letter, but even the Church today) might learn to love with a dying love and give God all the glory since it is by Him that we love at all (1 John 4:19).